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Valentines day.
Feb. 13th, 2003 02:34 amWhat really gets me about it isn't just the artificiality of it, but the homogenous nature of this artificial holiday. You get someone *red roses* because that's the flower you give on V-day. You buy her heart shaped boxes of drug store chocolate, because that's the candy you give. I want violets and a Lake Champlain Raspberry Truffle bar. Do you know how hard it would be to find violets now? do you know how much effort that would mean Mr. X had spent on me? As opposed to the flower that says "I didn't care enough to actually find out what your favorite flower is" And let's face it. No one's favorite flowers are scentless red rosebuds that will never bloom but rather wilt pathetically within a day.
The way I figure, you have three options for Vday. Tacky, which involves a leather rose and a bag of M&Ms. Thoughtful, which involves the flowers they like, the chocolate they like, perhaps a thoughtful gift that they will like. Or just being sweet to them same as you would any other day, just because they deserve sweetness.
Me? I have no one special to be thoughtful or sweet to me. my mother however seems to have tacky covered but good. (my mother's motto: Tacky: it's not just for glue anymore.) She's found me another valentine's animal from Walmart. Last year was a pink elephant. The year before was a fuzzy rhino with a heart stuck to his hip.
And really, I don't need a holiday to tell me I'm alone, and I don't need a holiday to tell me this is wrong. I'm not delighted to be single, I'm quite often lonely, but that's my business, not the holiday's. And maybe I wouldn't be quite so lonely if I wasn't being told so often that I should be lonely. Though I think probably I would be. The cat just doesnt' cut it, I want someone I can tell about the day I had and all that.
The way I figure, you have three options for Vday. Tacky, which involves a leather rose and a bag of M&Ms. Thoughtful, which involves the flowers they like, the chocolate they like, perhaps a thoughtful gift that they will like. Or just being sweet to them same as you would any other day, just because they deserve sweetness.
Me? I have no one special to be thoughtful or sweet to me. my mother however seems to have tacky covered but good. (my mother's motto: Tacky: it's not just for glue anymore.) She's found me another valentine's animal from Walmart. Last year was a pink elephant. The year before was a fuzzy rhino with a heart stuck to his hip.
And really, I don't need a holiday to tell me I'm alone, and I don't need a holiday to tell me this is wrong. I'm not delighted to be single, I'm quite often lonely, but that's my business, not the holiday's. And maybe I wouldn't be quite so lonely if I wasn't being told so often that I should be lonely. Though I think probably I would be. The cat just doesnt' cut it, I want someone I can tell about the day I had and all that.
