Strength part the third, and a little gloating

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I wasn't waffling! I know I'm strong, just like I know I'm smart and silly and all that. I never said I wasn't sure if I was strong. What I said I wasn't sure about was if it was a virtue or a flaw. I've always seen it as a virtue. Every woman in my family is strong, most of my friends are strong, and to suddenly find people who don't see strength as a feminine trait was very odd and threw me. But I'm pleased to see that I'm right, that guys--at least some of them--see strength as an important thing.

As far as the rest of the paragraph is concerned, every boy I've asked so far can tell the difference between a sundress and a dress. And when you say the word "sundress" most of them get misty eyed for a moment. So I'm standing by my descriptors there. Now, if I'd said "lilac sundress" you could complain that he wasn't 'manly' enough. Oh, except that the character is a gardener. So he could say that too. I win!

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Sigh....

[(Anonymous)]

If I were the only person convinced the character wasn't male, that would be one thing. But you know I wasn't. What you do with that information is up to you, but I don't think that being defensive about it is the answer. I was simply the only woman who saw that, but that's because of my unique experience hanging out with trans- and cross- gendered people.

Strength comes in many forms and most of them are not seen as feminine. Then again, my family was different too.